Many women want to know what really turns a man on. I'll answer that easily -
EVERYTHING! No, but really I've come to find out that most of the things that women
think turn men on are wrong so here's what I've found in my venture to uncover the truth.
As I have asked this question to men, I usually get at least one response in
common amongst all of them. Self-confidence. When a woman exudes the aura of loving
herself and when she believes she is blessing the man with the honor of having sex with her.
It's not just a cliche that the most beautiful thing a woman can wear is confidence. In
delving deeper I have found a common theme that many women don't talk about or even
like to admit and that is that most of us are not 100% secure with our bodies.
I've found so many women (including myself) that are just not pleased with the
way they look naked. As for me I know when having sex I feel at my most vulnerable and as
though every single imperfection on my body is being magnified which can definitely
become a little unsettling. And who can let loose and have fun when they're focused on
their flaws? I have found that most of the best sex that I've ever had has been when I am
totally and utterly comfortable with the way I look, but that took some getting used to.
What I did was figure out a way I could boost my esteem. I dolled myself up with a cute
outfit and did the whole hair and make-up as though I was getting ready to see my guy. I
put on music that really makes me feel like I got it going on and I shamelssly danced in
front of the mirror as though I was doing a naughty performance for my lover. The key is
to get completely comfortable in your own skin and to in turn love every nook and cranny
on your body. It's something that takes a few times to get used to and I suggest doing it
when you're home alone so you're not worried if someone is gonna come walking in any
second but it really helped me feel sexier. It's almost like practice for later on when you're
in the bedroom with your significant other.
The second thing I heard from guys about what their turn on are is that we
really don't need to go all out with the extraneous stuff when getting it on. A heightened
sexual experience is contingent upon the level of intimacy and closeness in the room not on
what color nail polish you're wearing or if you can contort yourself into a pretzel. Guys say
they find a woman just as sexy with no clothes on than with all the lace and frills we feel the
need to put on for them. Now personally for me I don't get dressed up for him, I get dressed
up for me. I find that I feel more enticing and arousing with short skirts and push up bras
but to each his own. Coming from the male point of view, they don't really care what we're
wearing. Half the time they just rush to get your clothes off anyways. I also noticed that eye
contact is a huge part of intimacy especially when performing oral, men love to see you
looking up from below.
All in all from what I've found the most important part to turning on your man
is exuding sexiness and that can only come from within you. Feeling, knowing and
unleashing the sex goddess within you is the key. And there is a nymph queen inside each
and every one of us, it's just up to us to get in touch with her and let her out of her cage.
Friday, September 27, 2013
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Over the years I've done consummate research - asking each and every person I've been with what they like the most and here's what I've found. Most men all say that they want more oral sex.. big surprise, right? So I asked women what was it about blow jobs that they didn't like and I found 3 main things in common with most. Some women said it was the taste, others said they feel as though as it's degrading while others said they just felt that they were lacking the skills to give a good one. I'm gonna cover all three of those now.
First about the taste - there are tons of myths about what food and drinks that a guy can consume to make it taste better but that doesn't really help us out now does it? The simplest answer to this is easy peasy.. he doesn't have to do it in your mouth. I tend to find it more arousing to watch him finish elsewhere anyways but just remember, the man is just saying he wants more frequent oral sex not that he has to complete the act in your mouth.
I'm one of those girls who just doesn't like the taste of someone else's skin so the key to not getting any unwanted flavors in your mouth is to lubricate, lubricate, lubricate! Here's what I do - get yourself some liquid lube, just the regular kind not with all those flavors unless you prefer that but the flavoring can get overpowering after awhile. The regular liquid lube doesn't taste like anything, maybe a little sweetness but that's it so you can take a small amount and rub it on him before you start.
Now like I said before to lube, lube, lube but not just with the lubrication but with your own saliva. Spit is your friend!! The sloppier, the better. You will have a much easier time with your technique if he's sufficiently wet. If it's too dry you'll not only possibly get an aftertaste but you'll get a drag and too much friction which is definitely not pleasurable.
The second thing I hear is that women feel that giving b.j.'s is degrading. To that I say - honey, if you think he's the one in control you are totally mistaken. When you have a man's penis in your mouth you are in total and utter control of his world. This is his most prized possession, the reason he breathes oxygen into his lungs each day. If anything when a man let's you give him head, he is entrusting you with his very life. He's at his most vulnerable position he could be because at any moment you could bite off his very manhood.
When I give a blowjob I show him with no words, only actions, who is really running the show. Some women say they don't like to be on their knees, that the position itself is a physical manifestation of being in a submissive decision. So don't do it on your knees! Nobody said that that's the position you must be in and I've found most of the time they find it more enjoyable when they're lying down anyways.
The third reason women don't like doing this much sought after activity is because they think that they're not good at it. Practice, Practice! Research, Research! If you really want to give your man the best possible b.j. you can - do your homework. I have become very familiarized with all the parts of the male genitalia and have asked numerous questions to my partners.
The only way you can truly give your man the best is by finding out what he likes. This is where communication comes in. Just be upfront about it - 'Baby, I want to please you the best that I can so tell me, what do you like? Fast? Slow? Hard? Soft?' It may seem like an awkward conversation but if you're not comfortable enough to have that conversation, then you're definitely gonna have problems in experimenting to find out what works.
Remember, keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open. Also take some time to browse through Cosmo articles or on line blogs like this to find out what techniques work for other women. As far as that goes, I'll get into my techniques later on in this blog, so stay tuned.
First about the taste - there are tons of myths about what food and drinks that a guy can consume to make it taste better but that doesn't really help us out now does it? The simplest answer to this is easy peasy.. he doesn't have to do it in your mouth. I tend to find it more arousing to watch him finish elsewhere anyways but just remember, the man is just saying he wants more frequent oral sex not that he has to complete the act in your mouth.
I'm one of those girls who just doesn't like the taste of someone else's skin so the key to not getting any unwanted flavors in your mouth is to lubricate, lubricate, lubricate! Here's what I do - get yourself some liquid lube, just the regular kind not with all those flavors unless you prefer that but the flavoring can get overpowering after awhile. The regular liquid lube doesn't taste like anything, maybe a little sweetness but that's it so you can take a small amount and rub it on him before you start.
Now like I said before to lube, lube, lube but not just with the lubrication but with your own saliva. Spit is your friend!! The sloppier, the better. You will have a much easier time with your technique if he's sufficiently wet. If it's too dry you'll not only possibly get an aftertaste but you'll get a drag and too much friction which is definitely not pleasurable.
The second thing I hear is that women feel that giving b.j.'s is degrading. To that I say - honey, if you think he's the one in control you are totally mistaken. When you have a man's penis in your mouth you are in total and utter control of his world. This is his most prized possession, the reason he breathes oxygen into his lungs each day. If anything when a man let's you give him head, he is entrusting you with his very life. He's at his most vulnerable position he could be because at any moment you could bite off his very manhood.
When I give a blowjob I show him with no words, only actions, who is really running the show. Some women say they don't like to be on their knees, that the position itself is a physical manifestation of being in a submissive decision. So don't do it on your knees! Nobody said that that's the position you must be in and I've found most of the time they find it more enjoyable when they're lying down anyways.
The third reason women don't like doing this much sought after activity is because they think that they're not good at it. Practice, Practice! Research, Research! If you really want to give your man the best possible b.j. you can - do your homework. I have become very familiarized with all the parts of the male genitalia and have asked numerous questions to my partners.
The only way you can truly give your man the best is by finding out what he likes. This is where communication comes in. Just be upfront about it - 'Baby, I want to please you the best that I can so tell me, what do you like? Fast? Slow? Hard? Soft?' It may seem like an awkward conversation but if you're not comfortable enough to have that conversation, then you're definitely gonna have problems in experimenting to find out what works.
Remember, keep an open mind and keep the lines of communication open. Also take some time to browse through Cosmo articles or on line blogs like this to find out what techniques work for other women. As far as that goes, I'll get into my techniques later on in this blog, so stay tuned.
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